We had our first session together with Dr. Gold Thursday morning. It went so well we were back in her office Friday morning. Rob and I are fighting for an emotional connection. We love each other so much that neither one of us wants to say or do anything that could possibly hurt one another. That has prevented us from really being able to feel close to each other. In the past when we have had to have a serious conversation we have learned that it isn't safe to share our feelings with each other because it only causes the other person pain. We basically don't know how to talk to each other. This book is going to teach us how to do that.
It doesn't really matter what you are talking about. It's how you talk about it. Having a conversation is like dancing. For Rob and I we barely get one step in and the dance is over. So after our session on Thursday we attempted to have a conversation and it blew up in our face, and we were like this is why we don't talk to each other. We both wanted to give up. Long story short we are not giving up. We talked more Thursday night about how we feel stuck and now what do we do. We had intimate relations at 3 in the morning as a way for me to show Rob that I am not going to shut down like I would have in the past, and that I am in this 100%. We were back in Dr. Gold's office Friday morning ready to try again. She helped walk us through the conversation we were trying to have the day before and I think made a lot of things clearer to us as to how to communicate more effectively. We left feeling so much better. Yay!
